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Magicicada
08-30-2009, 09:05 PM
About 2 months ago, I started using Instead disposable menstrual cups. I've gotten used to all the extra hands-on required for insertion and removal, and I find that once they're in properly I can't feel them. Meanwhile, I've seen mention in passing--never with many details, alas--that they can be used during intercourse. Mr. SP has thus far been uncharacteristically unenthusiastic about exploring this option, citing fears that leakage may occur or that the cup might get "pushed too high up". Can I get some testimonials from anyone who has had sex while wearing/had sex with someone who was wearing a menstrual cup? Could you tell it was there? Were there any issues regarding leakage? And, for God's sake, did it get pushed too high up!?!

Cat Fight
08-30-2009, 09:37 PM
I've used them during sex and my partner could feel it, though he only mentioned it after the fact when I mentioned I'd had one in. It didn't seem to affect his enjoyment at all. It was slightly annoying for me, so I'd probably go for towels and blood-related jokes in the future.

Pushing anything too far up you – beyond the point of retrieval – is unlikely to occur, especially if you've poked around up there already (which you have likely done already if you're using these cups). They can leak, but probably won't if it's in properly and not due to be changed. But don't take it from an anonymous internet-er, tell the Mister it's a fun experiment and try it out.

johnpost
08-30-2009, 09:58 PM
About 2 months ago, I started using Instead disposable menstrual cups. I've gotten used to all the extra hands-on required for insertion and removal, and I find that once they're in properly I can't feel them. Meanwhile, I've seen mention in passing--never with many details, alas--that they can be used during intercourse. Mr. SP has thus far been uncharacteristically unenthusiastic about exploring this option, citing fears that leakage may occur or that the cup might get "pushed too high up". Can I get some testimonials from anyone who has had sex while wearing/had sex with someone who was wearing a menstrual cup? Could you tell it was there? Were there any issues regarding leakage? And, for God's sake, did it get pushed too high up!?!

it can't get pushed too far up that Mr. SP couldn't reach it.

DianaG
08-31-2009, 08:39 AM
Sex with an Instead cup should work fine, if it fits you well and is inserted correctly. It's not going to get pushed "too high up". If it's inserted properly, it's already sitting right over your cervix behind the pubic bone, there's not really a whole lot of "higher up" than that. I personally haven't had any luck with them (living proof that one size does not fit all), but if you're able to use them successfully for their intended purpose, then they probably fit you well enough that you can have sex with one in.

There IS the possibility of shifting and leakage if it's already somewhat full, but that's easily solved by inserting a fresh one before intercourse.

Unauthorized Cinnamon
08-31-2009, 08:42 AM
Instead is shaped roughly like a diaphragm, so it should work fine with sex. It can't get pushed up too far because it's a giant cuplike arrangement that's covering your entire cervix - it's not shaped or positioned in a way it could get jammed into your uterus, if that's what he's worried about. If you have it inserted properly, it's already as up as it's going to get.

I suspect he's one of those men who is freaked out by menstruation, and is looking for an excuse not to do it during that time. Who really cares if leakage occurs - just do it on a towel.

(BTW, I'm not the only one who got a funny mental image reading the thread title, am I?)

Green Bean
08-31-2009, 09:09 AM
Due diligence: The directions say you're not supposed to do it. Always follow the label directions.

Perhaps you haven't seen too many details because there aren't that many details to discuss. Insert. Have sex. Remove. That's it.

It works fine for me. I think I only experienced minor leakage once. My partner couldn't really feel it. He uses condoms, so maybe that makes a difference. It never shifted position. I'd only bother with it on heavy-flow days anyway.

I suspect he's one of those men who is freaked out by menstruation, and is looking for an excuse not to do it during that time. Seems that way, doesn't it?
(BTW, I'm not the only one who got a funny mental image reading the thread title, am I?)No, you're not. :)

janeslogin
08-31-2009, 12:32 PM
Always follow the label directions

I have presumed for many decades that most of the "do not"s in most instructions were there for legal reasons.

Green Bean
08-31-2009, 12:44 PM
I have presumed for many decades that most of the "do not"s in most instructions were there for legal reasons.Of course. But I thought we would be remiss in not noting that the directions specifically advise against doing this. I've obviously done it myself, and intend to keep doing so in the future.

Cat Fight
08-31-2009, 12:58 PM
Of course. But I thought we would be remiss in not noting that the directions specifically advise against doing this. I've obviously done it myself, and intend to keep doing so in the future.

It might be on the packaging, but their website (http://softcup.com/product/frequently_asked_questions.php#a19) reads

Q. Can I have sex with the INSTEAD® Softcup® in place?

A. Yes, you can have clean, comfortable sex with the INSTEAD® Softcup® in place. Although individual experience may vary, most likely neither you nor your partner will be able to feel the cup. To help avoid leakage on heavy flow days, insert a new cup immediately before intercourse. Remember that the INSTEAD® Softcup® is not a contraceptive and does not protect you from sexually transmitted infections

I wonder if they do get people assuming it'll work as a cervical cup or diaphragm-type contraceptive device. Stranger things have happened.

ETA Just realized Instead isn't the only menstrual cup available. Oops.

pbbth
08-31-2009, 12:59 PM
I've tried it twice. The first time he couldn't feel it and the second time we got about 4 seconds into it before he started screaming, "Ow! Ow! What the hell is up there, teeth?"

We haven't tried it again since.

Green Bean
08-31-2009, 01:06 PM
It might be on the packaging, but their website (http://softcup.com/product/frequently_asked_questions.php#a19) reads...It was on the paper inside the box of Instead that I have. Maybe they changed it. I looked for it specifically to see if it was okay to have sex with the darn thing in. It said no. I did it anyway.

Cat Fight
08-31-2009, 01:10 PM
It was on the paper inside the box of Instead that I have. Maybe they changed it. I looked for it specifically to see if it was okay to have sex with the darn thing in. It said no. I did it anyway.

You sex rebel. ;)

Magicicada
08-31-2009, 07:47 PM
I've tried it twice. The first time he couldn't feel it and the second time we got about 4 seconds into it before he started screaming, "Ow! Ow! What the hell is up there, teeth?"



Ah, you may have discovered Mr SP's true, secret fear.


Thanks for sharing, ya'll!

Red Stilettos
08-31-2009, 08:02 PM
My ex-husband and I tried it and it was not good. Like pbbth, he said that not only could he feel it, it hurt. I'm guessing that the ring sat on more of an angle, so he ended up feeling the edge of the firmer plastic ring, instead of the softer plastic of the cup. I guess that's why diaphragms have nice rounded edges for the ring.

We did not try again, so I can't be sure that it wasn't an insertion problem, but it didn't leak.

Nicolas Bourbaki
08-31-2009, 09:08 PM
it can't get pushed too far up that Mr. SP couldn't reach it.

I just have to say that I first parsed this as 'it can't get pushed too far up. That Mr. SP couldn't reach it' and then I was like "aww SNAP!"

Shot From Guns
09-01-2009, 01:21 PM
Leave cup in, have oral sex. Problem solved.

wierdaaron
09-01-2009, 01:42 PM
If he didn't use a condom, wouldn't there be fluid nastiness on both sides of the cup afterwords?

Freudian Slit
09-01-2009, 02:01 PM
I don't have a menstrual cup but isn't it supposed to be just inside the vagina, making it pretty much impossible to have sex with it in? Or is it up against the cervix like a diaphragm?

badbadrubberpiggy
09-01-2009, 02:46 PM
I don't have a menstrual cup but isn't it supposed to be just inside the vagina, making it pretty much impossible to have sex with it in? Or is it up against the cervix like a diaphragm?

The Instead cups look pretty much like a diaphragm, and they fit up by the cervix.

Other types, like the Diva cups, sit lower, so yeah, you couldn't really have intercourse with one of those in.

Mtgman
09-01-2009, 04:25 PM
Leave cup in, have oral sex. Problem solved.
Would that still qualify someone for their red wings?

Enjoy,
Steven

Magicicada
09-01-2009, 08:37 PM
Leave cup in, have oral sex. Problem solved.

Yeah, but what good does that do m--

OH, you mean HIM doing ME.




Boy, that's gonna take some smooth talking on my part.:)



P.S. to Weirdaaron, More than likely, yes. It shall not be pretty.

wierdaaron
09-01-2009, 09:32 PM
You women and your downstairs business are upsetting.

Freudian Slit
09-01-2009, 10:12 PM
The Instead cups look pretty much like a diaphragm, and they fit up by the cervix.

Other types, like the Diva cups, sit lower, so yeah, you couldn't really have intercourse with one of those in.

Ah, okay. Yeah, the Diva cup is one that I'm looking into for myself--I guess that's why I figured sex was a no-no

Shot From Guns
09-02-2009, 11:14 AM
OH, you mean HIM doing ME.

Both, actually, was my thought. Sequentially or simultaneously, as your preference may be. :D

Boy, that's gonna take some smooth talking on my part.:)

Shouldn't--at least, not any more than normal. That's what the cup is there for, after all.

badbadrubberpiggy
09-02-2009, 11:15 AM
Ah, okay. Yeah, the Diva cup is one that I'm looking into for myself--I guess that's why I figured sex was a no-no

I've tried both & like the Divacup better, for some reason I can't always get the instead cups in correctly, and they either leak or I can feel them. It's cheaper in the long run, too.

janetxcx
08-11-2015, 12:42 PM
I found this forum just a few days before I had sex with my Diva Cup inside me. My partner new about my cup and was excited to try having sex with it in lol. By the time we got down to business I was drunk so I wasn't nervous or anything. I was wet and ready, sorry if tmi lol, and he just slipped it in. I could feel my cup a little bit but after a while it just felt like normal sex. and tbh I had one of the best orgasms ever. When we were done he cleaned me up because a little bit of blood came out. I think this was because my cup wasn't in right or maybe his penis moved it. could be either because I experimented with folds this cycle and the punch down fold is not my friend... anyways. I went to the bathroom to readjust it and it was verrry far up. I have a really high cervix. it wasn't impossible to get it out, I beared down in the bathroom and pushed while making some panicking sounds lol. my partner came in to see if I was okay, really sweet of him but also annoying lol. it came out fine.
so, overall I give sex with a menstrual cup a B. my partner is not that very well endowed. maybe 4.5 inches. he said he couldn't feel the cup inside me, I told him about how in this forum someone said their partner could feel it. So for him it was good too. I'd probably do it again with him but maybe not with someone more endowed.
Hope this helps!

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