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Elysian
09-22-2009, 04:35 PM
Me and my husband have been having a little debate about the popularity of fisting outside of porn. I think it's like spitting, rarely done outside of porn, and mostly done in porn for the shock value. He disagrees. I also just don't understand the appeal, and he has yet to adequately explain this.

So, for the women:

1. Have you ever tried this? How many times?
2. Did you actually enjoy it? How much was pain, and how much was pleasure?
3. What was the reason you tried it? Would you ever try it, and why would you?
4. Would you ever fist your partner?

For the men:

1. Would you like to fist your partner?
2. If you think it's sexy, why?

For me -- I've never tried it. I don't think I ever would. I would be worried about my girly bits going back to normal after, and I think it would hurt like hell.

EmAnJ
09-22-2009, 04:40 PM
I've never done it, but I've fantasized about it. I know it would hurt like hell though, and would require a LOT of lubrication.

tdn
09-22-2009, 04:41 PM
1. Would you like to fist your partner?
2. If you think it's sexy, why?

No current partner, but it never held any interest for me with any previous partners. And I tend not to like fisting porn.

Green Bean
09-22-2009, 04:42 PM
Oh what the hell....

1. Have you ever tried this? How many times?
No

2. Did you actually enjoy it? How much was pain, and how much was pleasure?
N/A

3. What was the reason you tried it? Would you ever try it, and why would you?
I would like to try it. Why? Well, why not? I like to try new things.

4. Would you ever fist your partner?
Sure, if he wanted me to. I think I'd have to work up to it, though.


As far as your girly bits going back to normal--I assume you've never delivered a child vaginally?

ETA: I don't imagine that it would necessarily hurt if I was really into it and we went very slowly and used lots of lube. I hear wearing a latex glove helps. And it's not like he pushes the clenched fist right in there or something.

Fantome
09-22-2009, 04:44 PM
I think it's like spitting, rarely done outside of porn I'm betting spitting is a few thousand times more common than fisting (and not that rare).

tdn
09-22-2009, 04:47 PM
And it's not like he pushes the clenched fist right in there or something.

My understanding is that a fist is not formed at all. It's just fingering, but with four fingers. And a thumb.

Elysian
09-22-2009, 04:48 PM
Chasing Amy had a basic tutorial :P

Really Not All That Bright
09-22-2009, 04:49 PM
Man here. Would not like to fist my partner, would not like it i...

Damn, nothing rhymes with partner. Except possibly Ali Larter.

gurujulp
09-22-2009, 04:55 PM
Me and my husband have been having a little debate about the popularity of fisting outside of porn. I think it's like spitting, rarely done outside of porn, and mostly done in porn for the shock value. He disagrees. I also just don't understand the appeal, and he has yet to adequately explain this.

So, for the women:

1. Have you ever tried this? How many times?
2. Did you actually enjoy it? How much was pain, and how much was pleasure?
3. What was the reason you tried it? Would you ever try it, and why would you?
4. Would you ever fist your partner?

For the men:

1. Would you like to fist your partner?
2. If you think it's sexy, why?

For me -- I've never tried it. I don't think I ever would. I would be worried about my girly bits going back to normal after, and I think it would hurt like hell.

I have come damn close with a couple of girls. It depends on how they are built, and what their pleasure/pain threshold is.

I think it is interesting where possible, but in most cases it would take so much working towards that it would be less sexy than tedious- unless she really really wanted to try it, and then it would be hella fun!

Sexy is all about desire. If someone really got off on me dressing up in a furry costume, I would probably get carried away with it and have fun. She'd really have to wanna, though, to get me excited enough for that.

Fisting seems positively trite next to some things. It doesn't compare with what birth does!

Not for me, though. Pretty much my first rule in the either immediately pre or post-sex detailed conversation is "Stay away from my butt, and I will stay away from yours." Some women have taken issue with this on attention to their parts, but I remain firm with no contact for my parts. I just am not interested!

Oh, and spitting has only come up as needed for girls who are more into the butt than otherwise- easy lube!

aldiboronti
09-22-2009, 04:58 PM
Guy here, never seen the appeal of fisting, either for the fister or fistee. From my experience of porn I can attest that a grossly distended vagina or anus is not a pretty sight and, again in my opinion, an instant turnoff.

The Way of the Fist is not for me.

prettydorky
09-22-2009, 04:59 PM
would not like it in a garter
would not like it as a barter,
I would not like to fist my partner!
I would not like it, Sam I am!
I'd rather use things that aren't hands!

tdn
09-22-2009, 05:05 PM
would not like it in a garter
would not like it as a barter,
I would not like to fist my partner!
I would not like it, Sam I am!
I'd rather use things that aren't hands!

I would not put it in her box...

Zebra
09-22-2009, 05:06 PM
A friend of mine had this girlfriend who was 'very sexual'. He told me how she requested 'his whole hand inside her'. He only complied with 3 fingers. I asked him if he knew was fisting was and he claimed he did but I'm not sure he knew.


Anyway she dumped him less than a week later for no apparent reason.




I've never fisted or have been asked. I have pretty big hands so I'm not sure I would be a good fister.

Larry Mudd
09-22-2009, 05:09 PM
1. No.
2. No.

Anecdote: In my youth, I dropped acid with some friends of mine (a couple) and then opted to crash on their sofabed at the end of the evening, since it was too late to take the most convenient public transit option.

This meant awkwardly listening to them have sex in the next room. More awkwardly, after a pause I found her looming over me, flushed and sweaty.

"Larry! He got his whole fist in!" she exclaimed.

:eek:

"Uh... congratulations?"

Gfactor
09-22-2009, 05:52 PM
For the men:

1. Would you like to fist your partner?

I've done it with a couple of partners. It's not something I seek out, but it's pretty hot if she's into it.


2. If you think it's sexy, why?

The only sexy part of it for me was my partners' reactions.

corkboard
09-23-2009, 09:40 AM
Back in the early days of our relationship, long before marriage, my wife was a virgin and wanted to stay that way (we were in college and risking a pregnancy at that point was out of the question) so we explored every sexual practice two consenting people can come up with except penis-in-vagina intercourse. This included fisting.

We began innocently enough with me fingering her. She likes to start off with me rubbing her clit, but after a while she needed something inside, so she'd move my hand down so I could put two fingers in. After a few minutes, she would whisper "one more". A few minutes later, same request. The more I put in, the more she'd respond. At some point she would resume rubbing her clit herself. Eventually, I'd be in as far as my hand could go with my thumb sticking out. This was our regular routine.

On one such occasion, I could tell she was close for a while but just not able to come so I slowly worked my thumb in there, as her responses increased. By the time the bottom knuckle of my thumb disappeared, she began to have the most explosive orgasm I had ever witnessed. From that day on, I kept a container of Vaseline in my nightstand drawer, and the fisting became a regular activity.

Once we began having regular intercourse, she hasn't requested the fist. I always enjoyed it because of the obvious pleasure she experienced from it, as well as the idea that this petite little woman was able to fit it in there.

She has never tried to fist me, but occasionally uses a finger back there. It's all that fits, and while I don't mind it, it's not something I would ever request. A fist is out of the question.

Nava
09-23-2009, 10:22 AM
I have never tried it, but I understand that my maternal grandparents' third night as a married couple involved a mild form of fisting.

He hadn't been able to breach her hymen, so finally he bunched his fingers up (think of the gesture that in Italy means "and so?") and used the bunched fingers to breach her, reasoning that bones are harder than a boner.

So it was done for completely practical reasons. Oh, as this has come up other times: while Grandma was technically a virgin, quoth: "hands and mouths hadn't exactly been still," she was no blushing daisy.

johnpost
09-23-2009, 10:47 AM
easier for some females after vaginal childbirth. if she is not a dripper use lots of water based lube. easier on all fours with front bent lower.

go slow both at the moment and in the whole process, it could take days or weeks for both to get good at doing both their part. trim finger nails very short with no fresh sharp edges.

start with adding multiple fingers and farther in. let the fingers squish together straight. big points are base knuckles of fingers and later thumb and its base knuckle, do very slow working up to these. you might be able to make fist inside. clit action with finger or tongue is a helper both in wanting more and being able to take more.

extraction best done just after orgasm and the relaxation, 2nd or 3rd orgasm is good for this. withdraw very slow.

Really Not All That Bright
09-23-2009, 10:53 AM
wrong thread

panache45
09-23-2009, 12:51 PM
Same-sex fisting. After having fantasized about it for many years, I finally had the opportunity to do it . . . only once, about 25 years ago, and it was one of the most powerfully intimate sexual experiences of my life. The guy who was the "fistee" was extremely experienced, and I was able to go in to just beyond my elbow. I was pleasantly surprised at how warm it was inside him. I assume I was pushing into his diaphragm, and I could actually feel his heart beating. The intense feeling of intimacy came from actually being inside another human being . . . and once we positioned ourselves properly, we could actually kiss at the same time. An amazing, unforgettable experience.

Plan B
09-23-2009, 01:03 PM
Guy here.

Never did it.
Never wanted to do it.

gurujulp
09-23-2009, 02:25 PM
Same-sex fisting. After having fantasized about it for many years, I finally had the opportunity to do it . . . only once, about 25 years ago, and it was one of the most powerfully intimate sexual experiences of my life. The guy who was the "fistee" was extremely experienced, and I was able to go in to just beyond my elbow. I was pleasantly surprised at how warm it was inside him. I assume I was pushing into his diaphragm, and I could actually feel his heart beating. The intense feeling of intimacy came from actually being inside another human being . . . and once we positioned ourselves properly, we could actually kiss at the same time. An amazing, unforgettable experience.

Ever wear a band?

As you describe it, it sounds awesome- but I really don't think I would be interested...

Elysian
09-23-2009, 02:40 PM
Some of you are forgetting my questions. I'd like to know how many times, and why it's sexy to you.

And Nava, for some reason your story about your grandfather really squicked me out. Maybe it's because...it's about your grandfather? Brrr.

Happy Fun Ball
09-23-2009, 02:53 PM
I have never tried it, but I understand that my maternal grandparents' third night as a married couple involved a mild form of fisting.

He hadn't been able to breach her hymen, so finally he bunched his fingers up (think of the gesture that in Italy means "and so?") and used the bunched fingers to breach her, reasoning that bones are harder than a boner.

So it was done for completely practical reasons. Oh, as this has come up other times: while Grandma was technically a virgin, quoth: "hands and mouths hadn't exactly been still," she was no blushing daisy.

How in the hell did you find out about this? Your family dinners must be entertaining!

Oh, and since I am here, guy, never done it, never wanted to, does nothing for me in porn...

Icarus
09-23-2009, 04:08 PM
Elysian, you have to remind your husband that porn is porn, and real life is real life. If everything we saw in porn were as common in real life then we wouldn't watch porn, yah?

Nava
09-23-2009, 04:29 PM
And Nava, for some reason your story about your grandfather really squicked me out. Maybe it's because...it's about your grandfather? Brrr.

How in the hell did you find out about this? Your family dinners must be entertaining!

My grandmother doesn't believe in the concept of TMI.

control-z
09-23-2009, 04:32 PM
Male here, never done it, never been requested to do it, wouldn't want to do it. The thought really grosses me out, maybe it's not a logical feeling, but there it is.

G0sp3l
09-23-2009, 05:00 PM
Male. Never done it, never been asked. No interest whatsoever, and I like to think I'm uninhibited.

Nava, I had lived 40 years without EVER thinking of my Grannies even having had sex. You'll be hearing from my lawyer. And my therapist.

I may need to reevaluate my stance on censorship and net neutrality.

Freudian Slit
09-23-2009, 05:05 PM
Question--where exactly is the arm/hand going when you go up to the elbow? Like...up the colon?!

Giraffe
09-23-2009, 05:07 PM
Male, haven't done it, not really interested. I have really big hands, so I'm not sure it's even possible.

StusBlues
09-23-2009, 05:23 PM
Haven't seen much fisting porn, but one of my best friends (lesbian female) swears by it. Her clit isn't that sensitive, so what's a girl to do?

I haven't fisted my current SO and probably won't, but I've come close--and she was digging it.

garygnu
09-23-2009, 06:03 PM
Chasing Amy had a basic tutorial :P
Do you really spread out the fingers and wave?

Grrr!
09-23-2009, 06:04 PM
I think it would be a lot better for my ego if I didn't fist my partner.

After having my fist; how she's supposed to be satisfied with my penis is beyond me.

Freudian Slit
09-23-2009, 06:07 PM
I think it would be a lot better for my ego if I didn't fist my partner.

After having my fist; how she's supposed to be satisfied with my penis is beyond me.

Well, if you're Jim Abbott, you don't have that problem.

HongKongFooey
09-23-2009, 06:08 PM
I had no idea spitting was common much less fisting. I'm going to give my wife a hug now.

The Great Sun Jester
09-23-2009, 06:23 PM
I'm going to give my wife a hug now.Freak...

G0sp3l
09-23-2009, 07:05 PM
Well, if you're Jim Abbott, you don't have that problem.

So, so, wrong. But funny.

Grrr!
09-24-2009, 01:09 AM
Well, if you're Jim Abbott, you don't have that problem.

So, so, wrong. But funny.

I'm probably going to regret this but could some one please explain the joke to me?

Thx.

Freudian Slit
09-24-2009, 01:30 AM
I'm probably going to regret this but could some one please explain the joke to me?

Thx.

Jim Abbott is (was?) a pitcher with one hand that's like, deformed.

http://flintjournal.com/125/past/images/hr/ABBOTT.jpg

That's a picture of him.

He's amazingly talented. It was wrong of me to mock him. But fun.

bouv
09-24-2009, 01:42 AM
I had one girlfriend that I came really close with on a few occasions. The first couple of times I wasn't intentionally trying to fist her, but she was really digging three fingers, so I went to four. It was really hot how I could feel the inside of her so well, and when she orgasmed, I could feel muscles in her g-spot contract. Hell, I'm pretty sure I was sort of massaging her cervix and it was making her come. Now I know all the female dopers will come in here and say having their cervix touched during sex hurts, but considering most of my hand was inside her, as deep as it could go, and I felt what could best be described as a bump, fleshy, wall...I'm not sure what else it could be. And she was loving every second of it.

Eventually I attempted to work my thumb in there as well, but couldn't quite ever get past the last set of knuckles without it hurting her a bit.

Eyebrows 0f Doom
09-24-2009, 02:35 AM
and I was able to go in to just beyond my elbow.

How... I mean.... but... Where does the arm go!? :eek:

SandyHook
09-24-2009, 02:35 AM
Guy here. Ms Hook and I have never tried it, and frankly I don't see it on the radar.

As for myself; I'd rather blow a rabid kangaroo than have someone stick their hand up my ass.

And as for having it in up to the elbow..........ewwwwww!

panache45
09-24-2009, 03:13 AM
Question--where exactly is the arm/hand going when you go up to the elbow? Like...up the colon?!

Where else? Obviously the receiver has to do a lot of cleansing beforehand. And like I said, I was probably pushing up against his diaphragm.

I have seen a video of someone going in almost to the shoulder. I have no idea how it was done. And no, he wasn't an amputee.

Male, haven't done it, not really interested. I have really big hands, so I'm not sure it's even possible.

Oh yes, it's possible. Some guys can take two fists/arms at once.

black rabbit
09-24-2009, 09:54 AM
Male, haven't done it, not really interested. I have really big hands, so I'm not sure it's even possible.

New sig:

"A giraffe's fist is the diameter of a dinner plate."

Dogzilla
09-24-2009, 12:21 PM
Not for me, though. Pretty much my first rule in the either immediately pre or post-sex detailed conversation is "Stay away from my butt, and I will stay away from yours."
How YOU doin'? ;)

I've actually experienced fisting and quite enjoyed it.

It was a one-off sort of thing; the guy was never my boyfriend or anything. Just a one-time hookup.It was never discussed, nor did he ask me if I wanted him to try this. He worked up to it very slowly and there was plenty of, um, ahem, natural lubrication involved so there was no need for artificial assistance in that area. (Which means I was enjoying it.)

It did not hurt a bit.

It felt good, but it wasn't something that was going to get me off, and eventually, got to be a little intense -- just a smidge uncomfortable. I said, "Okay, that was fun, but that's enough now, thank you." And he was, "Oh, sorry, I was totally into it; maybe I got a little carried away." I assured him that he hadn't hurt me, I'd enjoyed it and we moved on to the next agenda item.

He was very gentle and I didn't feel at all as if my vajayjay was being used as a punching bag or anything. I'd probably do it again, but if I was asked, that wouldn't really be on my top ten list of favorite sexual activities.

StusBlues
09-24-2009, 01:45 PM
Now I know all the female dopers will come in here and say having their cervix touched during sex hurts...

Obviously not the case for all women. I know two women who climax rather heartily upon the stroking of their cervix.

Elysian
09-24-2009, 02:09 PM
So...three "I've heard of someone doing it" and three "I've done it" positively...I hope I didn't get the numbers wrong.

So anyone know why they do it so often during porn? Either there is a market for this stuff out there or I'm looking at the wrong type of porn. Completely turns me off if someone's stuffing their whole hand in there, much less a foot...! Ew yuck!

Gfactor
09-24-2009, 02:52 PM
So anyone know why they do it so often during porn? Either there is a market for this stuff out there or I'm looking at the wrong type of porn. Completely turns me off if someone's stuffing their whole hand in there, much less a foot...! Ew yuck!

I'm not sure they do it that often in mainstream porn. Adam Glasser, aka Seymore Butts was charged with obscenity-related offenses for distributing videos that included fisting a few years back.
http://pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/porn/prosecuting/casetowatch.html <-----NSFW

From what I've seen, it's not common in most mainstream porn.

bordelond
09-24-2009, 03:16 PM
Where else? Obviously the receiver has to do a lot of cleansing beforehand. And like I said, I was probably pushing up against his diaphragm.

I have seen a video of someone going in almost to the shoulder. I have no idea how it was done. And no, he wasn't an amputee.


... so all those visceral organs are just getting pushed around somewhere?

Antinor01
09-24-2009, 09:18 PM
Where else? Obviously the receiver has to do a lot of cleansing beforehand. And like I said, I was probably pushing up against his diaphragm.

I have seen a video of someone going in almost to the shoulder. I have no idea how it was done. And no, he wasn't an amputee.



Oh yes, it's possible. Some guys can take two fists/arms at once.

There's video of both on x-tube.

As to the OP, yes I've done it with several (same-sex) partners but only as the top. I have zero interest in experiencing it as a bottom.

As to why it's sexy, it's hard to describe. There's just something incredibly intimate about having your hand inside someone. There has to be a lot of trust there because of the possibilities of injury and the like.

Flutterby
09-25-2009, 12:34 AM
Dogzilla's experience was basically the same as mine. It never came up, it just sort of worked up to it, wasn't uncomfortable. Not sure how much he got up there but it was enjoyable at the time. And I agree.. not in my top ten but I wouldn't say no to doing it again.

panache45
09-25-2009, 12:34 AM
... so all those visceral organs are just getting pushed around somewhere?

Well . . . yes. But your intestines are pretty good at accommodating changing states of fullness or emptiness, and this is just a case of the large intestine just being REALLY full. And most of your organs can accommodate a certain amount of flexibility. Otherwise, athletes and yogaphiles would constantly be dislocating their internal organs.

Which is not to say that there aren't risks. But people who do this on a regular basis are pretty well-informed about precautions . . . otherwise they wouldn't be around to keep doing it. The guy I did it with was extremely experienced, and he sort of guided me throughout the procedure. And he was smart enough to check the length of my fingernails before we started . . . and to make sure I was sober. He was also quite tall, so his body could accommodate a few more inches of my arm.

MovieMogul
09-25-2009, 01:57 AM
For the men:

1. Would you like to fist your partner?
2. If you think it's sexy, why?
1. Only if she wants me to.
2. I don't find the act particularly sexy, but her hunger to consume me, so to speak, can be really sexy.

FTR, I've only done it once, but when she asked me to, it came as a surprise but I was eager (sloooowly, of course) to oblige. Still a visual that stays with me.

ToeJam
09-25-2009, 02:40 AM
I'm a guy, and nope, never fisted anyone, nor really had a desire to do so- guy or girl.

But I have given a prostate exam to a few guys. And I gotta say- I can certainly understand the appeal for some guys to want to do that, Panache- your descriptions of it kinda were interesting. I was really surprised at how warm it was too in there. I can certainly understand a bit better the appeal of anal sex there as well. So it did broaden my horizons on that front.

Oh- and might as well mention I have no desire to be fisted myself either and not looking forwards to whenever my own first prostate exam will come along. Just because I understand the appeal of the giver, doesn't mean I know really want to know anything about what the recipient feels. But I suppose in due time, most of us guys will find that one out....

bordelond
09-25-2009, 11:50 AM
FTR, I've only done it once, but when she asked me to, it came as a surprise but I was eager (sloooowly, of course) to oblige. Still a visual that stays with me.
Similar story, only we were young and dumb and didn't conceive of it as fisting (no fist made before insertion). I gotta say, though ... this girl's vagina, I think, was somehow different from most other women's. I could get four fingers into her with minimal foreplay and no lube except her own. She could have done various kinds of vaginal insertion porn if she wanted -- I'd be she could've worked up to the fat end of a baseball bat within a few minutes :eek:

Really Not All That Bright
09-25-2009, 11:55 AM
Oh- and might as well mention I have no desire to be fisted myself either and not looking forwards to whenever my own first prostate exam will come along. Just because I understand the appeal of the giver, doesn't mean I know really want to know anything about what the recipient feels. But I suppose in due time, most of us guys will find that one out....
Er... doesn't a prostate exam just require a finger?

'Cause if not, death doesn't sound too bad.

Foxy40
09-25-2009, 11:58 AM
1. Have you ever tried this? How many times?

Yes. Many.

2. Did you actually enjoy it? How much was pain, and how much was pleasure?

Half and Half I would say. Well, the pleasure is more of a mental thing because my husband gets pleasure from doing it to me.

3. What was the reason you tried it? Would you ever try it, and why would you?

My husband really likes doing it for some reason. I didn't really "try" it on purpose. He just did it one day. After the shock value, I realized how turned on it got him so we incorporated it into our sex life. We have a sub/dom relationship in the bedroom.

4. Would you ever fist your partner?

Probably not.

ToeJam
09-25-2009, 10:40 PM
Er... doesn't a prostate exam just require a finger?

'Cause if not, death doesn't sound too bad.

True, I was just thinking of my guy who happened to be stuck w/ me as a student- so he got to have a double exam- first by the doctor and then by the student. He didn't seem to enjoy it much at all. So I'm just going by his reaction on the matter. :(

TokyoBayer
09-25-2009, 11:34 PM
would not like it in a garter
would not like it as a barter,
I would not like to fist my partner!
I would not like it, Sam I am!
I'd rather use things that aren't hands!

I do not like kinky sex
I do not like leather necks
I would not like to fist my love
I would not like to use a glove
Not in a box
Not with a fox
I would not dress up as Malcom X
I would not enjoy kinky sex

panache45
09-26-2009, 01:42 AM
. . . didn't conceive of it as fisting (no fist made before insertion).

The fist is usually made after insertion, unless the receiver is already extremely loose.

Chronos
09-26-2009, 03:16 PM
I'm a little puzzled why the OP split it up into separate sets of questions for men and women. Fisting is an equal-opportunity sex act: Everyone has a hand, and everyone has at least one orifice.

panache45
09-26-2009, 04:03 PM
I'm a little puzzled why the OP split it up into separate sets of questions for men and women. Fisting is an equal-opportunity sex act: Everyone has a hand, and everyone has at least one orifice.

Yes, but women have two orifices, and men have only one, and there are obviously huge differences between an anus and a vagina. And yes, I wish we'd had different threads, but it's too late now.

Fear Itself
09-26-2009, 04:39 PM
I would not put it in her box...I would not want to smell like lox.

Elysian
09-27-2009, 07:31 AM
I'm a little puzzled why the OP split it up into separate sets of questions for men and women. Fisting is an equal-opportunity sex act: Everyone has a hand, and everyone has at least one orifice.


Because I'm primarily concerned as to women's feelings about receiving it and the rate of fisting in the general population, thus the slant of my questions. If I cared about a different aspect of the issue I would ask different questions.

Elysian
09-27-2009, 07:37 AM
Double post

chaoticbear
09-27-2009, 09:56 PM
Bottoming

1. Have you ever tried this? How many times?
Twice. Neither time was it actually able to go all the way in, in spite of poppers.

2. Did you actually enjoy it? How much was pain, and how much was pleasure?
Not a whole lot of pain, he went slowly, and I am accommodating. But being full for so long was uncomfortable after a while. And I had the same reaction I always do to large objects (before, only toys), where it's lots of fun for a while, but then so much prostate-ramming is flaccidation-inducing. :/

3. What was the reason you tried it? Would you ever try it, and why would you?
He was into it, and I had always been curious.

4. Would you ever fist your partner?
I fisted him once, he was apparently very experienced at it, I used lots of lube and he gobbled my hand right up.

I think it's hot to watch fisting porn though, if the guys are attractive.

anya marie
09-29-2009, 04:22 AM
1. Have you ever tried this? How many times? 6 or 7 times

2. Did you actually enjoy it? How much was pain, and how much was pleasure?
Most of it was pleasure although i was sore for the next day: if it's done well it can give you multiple orgasms

3. What was the reason you tried it? Curiosity

4. Would you ever fist your partner? Never been asked

Sebastienne
09-30-2009, 04:16 PM
I saw this thread when it was first posted, and hemmed and hawed about responding. Then it fell off the first page, just when I'd resolved to do my part to fight ignorance.

So what the heck.

1. Have you ever tried this? How many times? Yes. I don't know if I can put a number to it, but vaginal fisting has been a regular, primary sexual activity between my partner and I since early this summer. Prior to that, I had gotten most of my hand into the vaginas of other women, but never been fisted myself. I wasn't turned off by the idea, but had no particular interest in it and none of my girlfriends ever brought up the possibility of them doing me, until a certain very special someone finally did.

2. Did you actually enjoy it? How much was pain, and how much was pleasure? I love it. Love it love it love it love it love it. The only pain was during the first few tries, and was due only to some of the external skin being unused to stretching. Now it's nothing but pleasure. Heck, I'd say conventional boy-girl intercourse tends to have more pain involved, if only due to the likelihood of friction, thrusting too hard, etc.

3. What was the reason you tried it? I was a little bit curious, and my partner was very turned on by the idea.


4. Would you ever fist your partner? Happily, and I'd enjoy doing so more now knowing how it feels myself.

I have found amongst some lesbians, fisting is taken as not-quite-normal but not too eyebrow raising either, whereas others respond with shock and occasional horror. It definitely feels like the most-intimate, main-event level sex act for me, comparable with hetero intercourse, though the feelings associated (both physical and emotional) are rather different. I was very surprised how it didn't just feel like I was being penetrated by something gigantic, but rather, that I was interfacing with my partner's hand.

Yeah, I never would have believed it either.

Son of the hills
11-10-2010, 10:30 PM
While stationed in Germany one of the local "Party Girls" showed up at one of weeklyBBQ's we had at the Officer's quarters.
After a evening of drinking her and I went to my room for some serious sex,
she wanted me to put apillow under her hips and start placing one finger after another inside her with the help of genereous amounts of lube. She finally had me put my thumb in the palm of my hand. Once I was up to the knuckles she shoved against my hand and swallowed it up to my wrist!! She told me to start clenching my hand and opening it again while twisting my hand and trusting back and forth inside. Her reaction was incredible!! She was doing every move like she was impaled on my hand, doing hip thrusts and picking her ass about a foot off the bed all the while making animal noises and nearly separating my shoulder. After that she just wanted to lie there while I moved inside her. We actually napped for several hours before she wanted to disengage. She then confessed that one of her bi girlfriends and her had slept entire nights with each other's hand inside each other! She just wanted to see what it was with a larger (man's) hand inside.
A few weeks later during an after another party, we found ourselves back inside my room. Vowing to give me the "Ultimate Blowjob", she started going down on me while I layed on my back. I thought it was strange when she put a pillow and a towel under the small of my back .
She started putting her lubed up fingers in my ass and when I protested she just kept joking saying things like"Don't be a wussy" and "take it like a man".
Just as I started to ejaculate she shoved HER hand up to the wrist in ME!
I didn't think I would EVER stop coming in her mouth! All I can say I never felt an jolt like that! She even insisted leaving her hand inside me for an hour.
It might seem Gay to do that but it was incredible. Before we went our separate ways we we did it couple more times with me finally fitting my hand inside her ass!! Even once we slept for several hours with each other's hand inside the other. What an incredible and strange feeling it is, we could actually feel each other's heartbeat!
After the first time she introduced me to enimas. (Oh, how those Germans enjoy that. But that's another story) And insisted we clean each other out with warm water, (it really helps to relax the anal muscles) and wearing latex gloves to prevent dirt and germs on the hands from starting vaginal or anal infections. The gloves also seems to make the hand go in much more smoothly with less resistance. Just use LOTS of lube and have towels under you to soak up the excess body fluids and lube.
Like I said, it's a strange way of showing affections but it is about the most intimate way of connecting with each other. Especially just laying there resting and talking.
If you have a willing and open minded partner(male or female) and want a incredible experience, give it a try!!!

Rand Rover
11-10-2010, 10:58 PM
Same-sex fisting. After having fantasized about it for many years, I finally had the opportunity to do it . . . only once, about 25 years ago, and it was one of the most powerfully intimate sexual experiences of my life. The guy who was the "fistee" was extremely experienced, and I was able to go in to just beyond my elbow. I was pleasantly surprised at how warm it was inside him. I assume I was pushing into his diaphragm, and I could actually feel his heart beating. The intense feeling of intimacy came from actually being inside another human being . . . and once we positioned ourselves properly, we could actually kiss at the same time. An amazing, unforgettable experience.

Holy lord jesus christ almighty. . . of all the threads on this message board, why in god's name am I reading this one . . . "beyond the elbow" oh christ

Savannah
11-11-2010, 12:59 AM
So, for the women:

1. Have you ever tried this? How many times?

Nope.

2. Did you actually enjoy it? How much was pain, and how much was pleasure?


3. What was the reason you tried it? Would you ever try it, and why would you?

Would not try it. It is visually disturbing to me, and I can't imagine it being physically appealing to me.

4. Would you ever fist your partner

Nope.

Ostrya
11-11-2010, 01:08 AM
Um. This is seriously one of the most disturbing threads I have ever read.

Arrendajo
11-11-2010, 03:03 AM
Heterosexual guy here. I have fisted my partners many times. It is an intense turn-on and frankly I love to do it.
I'm a bit surprised at how few posters have tried it. For me it was a natural progression as I grew more sexually experienced.

EvilTOJ
11-11-2010, 04:00 AM
Man here; I would fist a girl if she were really into it, but I don't care about it one way or the other. I've attempted it on me as the receiver, and I, uh, don't go that big.

I have have a friend who's really into fisting. She has an object insertion fetish that she gets into sometimes. Yes we've done it a few times, that's how I know I don't care either way, but if she's into it, then it's into her. It's interesting that she's pregnant now, I wonder how the delivery will go....

I hate the trend of spitting in porn. It's stupid and un-lady-like.

LouisB
11-11-2010, 05:00 AM
I might have complied had I ever been asked but I would have been filled with anxiety. It she needed a diameter corresponding to my fist, my penis would proven to be woefully short. So to speak.

Plain old sex is so much fun, why do people seek out these perversions? I mean, hell, what's wrong with zucchinis and cucumbers and nice fat candles and such? Not to mention twisting, turning, knobby, oversize battery powered dildos and threesomes with freakishly hugely endowed male participants? I just prefer to keep things simple; I guess I have no imagination.

Rhythmdvl
11-11-2010, 05:55 AM
Ah, so this is the Gonzo porn I've been hearing about.

Count Blucher
11-11-2010, 09:58 AM
Zombie-Thread Fisting??? I thought all the really scary Halloween movies were Over... *yikes!*

Really Not All That Bright
11-11-2010, 12:11 PM
Heterosexual guy here. I have fisted my partners many times. It is an intense turn-on and frankly I love to do it.
I'm a bit surprised at how few posters have tried it. For me it was a natural progression as I grew more sexually experienced.
Have you footed your partner? 'Cause that also seems like a natural progression, and... ow. Also, ew. :eek:

Spectre of Pithecanthropus
11-11-2010, 12:42 PM
Closing thread.

Just because.

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