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Old 11-16-2008, 02:06 PM
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Straight men - do you mind the idea of gay men being in the shower with you?

Inspired by a thread in GD, I wanted to ask this. In communal showers/locker rooms does the idea of gay men being in there and seeing you naked bother you at all? If so how much on a scale of 1 to 10? Bear in mind that if you're in a locker room with 15 other guys then statistically one of them is gay.
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Old 11-16-2008, 02:08 PM
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Nope, not at all. I can't say I haven't ever thought about it, but nope.

I don't find communal showers a very arousing place most of the time.
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Old 11-16-2008, 02:11 PM
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No.
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Old 11-16-2008, 02:23 PM
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I don't communal showers, but when I'm in one, I'm assuming everyone is doing what I'm doing - cleaning up and getting the hell out. I don't spend a lot of time looking around at other dudes, so unless someone is boring a hole through my genitalia with their eyes, I wouldn't even notice someone looking in my direction.

One thing that bothers me about straight homophobic people is the assumption that gay people find them attractive. Isn't that presumptuous? As a straight person, I don't find every woman attractive, and I'm bothered when a woman assumes that just because they have two X chromosomes I want to get in their pants. All of the gay guys I've known are very particular, so I think if there was a stereotypical reaction at most gyms in America among gay dudes, it would be "yuck."
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Old 11-16-2008, 02:59 PM
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I don't communal showers, but when I'm in one, I'm assuming everyone is doing what I'm doing - cleaning up and getting the hell out. I don't spend a lot of time looking around at other dudes, so unless someone is boring a hole through my genitalia with their eyes, I wouldn't even notice someone looking in my direction.

One thing that bothers me about straight homophobic people is the assumption that gay people find them attractive. Isn't that presumptuous? As a straight person, I don't find every woman attractive, and I'm bothered when a woman assumes that just because they have two X chromosomes I want to get in their pants. All of the gay guys I've known are very particular, so I think if there was a stereotypical reaction at most gyms in America among gay dudes, it would be "yuck."
Exactly!
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Old 11-16-2008, 03:03 PM
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No. Even if I had the kind of body that gay men might want, I wouldn't care.
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Exactly!
Ditto.
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Old 11-16-2008, 03:05 PM
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I wouldn't mind as long as the gay men keep their hands to themselves and don't stare too much. I think that would cover 99.9997% of all gay shower encounters, so I don't worry about it.

Also, in all the times I have showered at the gym I can't say that I have ever noticed anybody being obviously gay, while statistically I've probably met a few gays there. So in most cases I wouldn't even know that I was in the same shower room as a gay.
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Old 11-16-2008, 03:15 PM
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Not a problem for me. I've had two openly gay roommates, and never thought twice about it.
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Old 11-16-2008, 03:18 PM
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I wouldn't mind. Hell, if someone were checking me out, I'd feel hot.
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Old 11-16-2008, 03:24 PM
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One thing that bothers me about straight homophobic people is the assumption that gay people find them attractive. Isn't that presumptuous? As a straight person, I don't find every woman attractive, and I'm bothered when a woman assumes that just because they have two X chromosomes I want to get in their pants. All of the gay guys I've known are very particular, so I think if there was a stereotypical reaction at most gyms in America among gay dudes, it would be "yuck."
I can see the flip side of that, the suspicion that someone who prefers my gender - whether gay man or straight woman - might take note of my unattractiveness in a way that a straight man doesn't care enough to do. While it is pretty low on the list of things I worry about, a gay man finding me unattractive might bother me a bit, but one finding me attractive wouldn't.

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Old 11-16-2008, 03:36 PM
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I feel confident in speaking on Mr. S's behalf and saying that he wouldn't care. As someone said upthread, most guys are in the to clean up and get out. And yes, we're all particular about who we're attracted to, rather than lusting after everyone who has the correct chromosomes.

As for myself, I've slept in a bed with a lesbian. We were both in committed relationships at the time, we were both wearing modest jammies, and there were two other women in the other double bed in the hotel room that we were all sharing. I wasn't ooged out at all. Sheesh, she was my friend, that's all.
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Old 11-16-2008, 03:54 PM
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My shower is fairly small, only about 9 square feet, so I don't think it would be much fun with 15 guys in there. If there was only one other man, and he happened to be gay, it wouldn't be a big deal, but I don't see why he couldn't just use the guest shower or at worst we could take turns in the shower.
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Assuming we're talking about the typical large, communal shower of a locker room in a gym or whatever:

No.
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Old 11-16-2008, 04:30 PM
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No. Also had a gay male roomate for two years and was never concerned, bothered, or otherwise thoughtful about it.

>I'm bothered when a woman assumes that just because they have two X chromosomes I want to get in their pants.

Yeah, well, this is kind of a tough one. As Billy Crystal's character in "When Harry Met Sally" said, "No, you pretty much want to nail them too." To be much more accurate and fussy about this one, women should assume that just because they have two X chromosomes we *probably* want to get in their pants. Not that I approve of this kind of want, mind you. The thing is, Nature doesn't care if sex is incredible, it only cars you think it is going to be.
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Old 11-16-2008, 04:48 PM
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Are they erect and trying to mount me? Or suggesting it?

Then no.

Though I suppose I would find it somewhat disturing to encounter two gay men having sex together in the shower. Or two lesbians, but that would be a different, hotter, kind of disturbance.
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Old 11-16-2008, 04:55 PM
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I wouldn't mind. Hell, if someone were checking me out, I'd feel hot.
This. I'm flattered when gay men hit on me.
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Old 11-16-2008, 05:00 PM
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This. I'm flattered when gay men hit on me.
Seriously, I'm flattered when anyone, of any orientation, faith, etc...is appreciative of anything of mine for any reason.
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Old 11-16-2008, 05:17 PM
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I also think it's cool if anybody finds me attractive, but I'd rather not find out as I'm scrubbing my ass after shooting hoops.

Napier, I guess I'm a little different. I see women all the time, and there's very few I want to see naked, especially when I consider people I encounter at the gym. Now if I'm at Venice Beach, that percentage goes up a little bit. But again, seeing an attractive woman does not equate to raging boner instantly, for me anyway.

kellner, I guess I don't care one way or the other. I'm a teensy bit uncomfortable being checked out in a shower by someone I presume finds me attractive (unless I found them attractive as well, and I knew this before someone of either gender was checking me out in the shower), and if someone is thinking how gross I am, I think that's just assholish behavior. I guess I would interpret someone looking at me as some kind of flattery, because, you know, you can always just look in the other direction if I repulse you so much.
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Old 11-16-2008, 05:19 PM
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Let me put it in more general terms - if someone is checking you out in a way that is totally undetectable, you can't tell but they're doing it, would that bother you? Or is it just obvious oggling that does?
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Let me put it in more general terms - if someone is checking you out in a way that is totally undetectable, you can't tell but they're doing it, would that bother you?
If you can't tell they're doing it, it can't bother you. Think about it.
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Old 11-16-2008, 05:38 PM
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Seriously, I'm flattered when anyone, of any orientation, faith, etc...is appreciative of anything of mine for any reason.
I'm flattered if a dog humps my leg.
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Old 11-16-2008, 05:52 PM
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I'm bothered more by the existence of it than the idea of it. Why? I have my reasons.

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Old 11-16-2008, 05:54 PM
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Let me put it in more general terms - if someone is checking you out in a way that is totally undetectable, you can't tell but they're doing it, would that bother you? Or is it just obvious oggling that does?
What RickJay said. But really, this goes back to whether or not you're comfortable with a gay man hitting on you.

I've had that happen once and basically, in my head I was like "I am so hot!", but my mouth was trying to stay very neutral because I didn't want to give this poor guy the wrong idea.
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Old 11-16-2008, 05:54 PM
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If someone I knew was gay was checking me out, yes definatly. In a gym shower, I would not really care, as said there my point is to shower, soap, shower and out.

It depends on context, if the setting is a club where I am being propositioned, er yes. On a beach, yes. In a gym or in a professional setting; no.
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Old 11-16-2008, 05:58 PM
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If you can't tell they're doing it, it can't bother you. Think about it.
I agree, but IntelSoldier doesn't. Hence the reason I started this thread.
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Old 11-16-2008, 06:01 PM
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Let me put it in more general terms - if someone is checking you out in a way that is totally undetectable, you can't tell but they're doing it, would that bother you? Or is it just obvious oggling that does?
If I don't know about it, it can't possibly bother me.

I'm thinking about a possibly analogous situation with mixed sex changing - it's pretty likely that there would be a significant level of checking out happening in changing rooms or showers where lots of men and women were simultaneously present - and I reckon the existence of separate changing facilities seems to support the notion that it's OK to be concerned about it.

So I guess it would be OK to be concerned about same-sex checking out too.

Except I just can't be bothered. I have no shame, really, and any propriety I appear to exhibit in this matter is almost entirely done for the benefit of others, not myself.
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Old 11-16-2008, 06:14 PM
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I wouldn't make a fuss about it, but I would (to be honest) not be as comfortable taking a shower with gay men as I would with hetero men. For whatever reason gay men would try to hit on me when I was in college and several times after that in social situations when I was single. I am pro-gay rights re lifestyle choices, full marriage rights etc. but being viewed and aggressively approached as a sexual object by men was a squirm inducing, and uncomfortable experience.

I have no illusions that my 50 year old hairy chested manliness would be inciting a sword fight, but being naked on front of gay men would not be my preferred scenario if I had a choice.

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Old 11-16-2008, 06:24 PM
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One thing that bothers me about straight homophobic people is the assumption that gay people find them attractive. Isn't that presumptuous? As a straight person, I don't find every woman attractive, and I'm bothered when a woman assumes that just because they have two X chromosomes I want to get in their pants. All of the gay guys I've known are very particular, so I think if there was a stereotypical reaction at most gyms in America among gay dudes, it would be "yuck."
I can understand why this presumption might cause bother, but in the context of nakedness in a changing room, the mere possibility of interest is enough to warrant separation in the case of men and women. I don't find all women attractive, but I'll be in trouble if I saunter into their changing rooms.

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Old 11-16-2008, 06:27 PM
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I don't think I would mind. My narcissistic ass would probably be flattered to be checked out.
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Old 11-16-2008, 06:59 PM
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When I shower, I always take my glasses off so if anyone did check me out, I wouldn't know about it.
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Old 11-16-2008, 07:06 PM
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I have no illusions that my 50 year old hairy chested manliness would be inciting a sword fight, but being naked on front of gay men would not be my preferred scenario if I had a choice.
Heh. Interesting choice of words

For me, no - I used to work out at the SF YMCA so I'm pretty sure that there were a number of gay guys there. I really did not give a hoot in terms of using the locker rooms, showers and saunas. Never experienced anything inappropriate.
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Old 11-16-2008, 07:32 PM
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Oddly, I have never given it a thought. Having just thought about it, I would not mind.
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Old 11-16-2008, 07:37 PM
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As long as he can resist the monumental temptation of trying to penetrate my sweet, sweet ass, then no.
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Old 11-16-2008, 07:47 PM
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I'd worry only that they don't find me hot. Then, I'd feel fat, pale, and insecure.
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Old 11-16-2008, 07:55 PM
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I'd worry only that they don't find me hot. Then, I'd feel fat, pale, and insecure.
Yeah, it's pretty much exactly the concerns I'd have changing in front of straight women.
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Old 11-16-2008, 07:56 PM
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I used to go to a gym that was about 90% gay men. I've spent a lot of time in the shower with gay men. It doesn't bother me. In fact, it's a heck of a compliment if you get hit on in the shower.

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Old 11-16-2008, 08:08 PM
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It would only bother me if he expressed some kind of sexual interest in me. But given the right circumstances, even that might not bother me. Never had a gay experience, but a blow job is a blow job is a blow job, right?

ETA : I should say that I do NOT and WOULD NOT do a communal shower unless I lost a very significant amount of weight, so the odds of me getting a locker room beej are nil.

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Old 11-16-2008, 08:13 PM
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My shower is fairly small, only about 9 square feet, so I don't think it would be much fun with 15 guys in there. If there was only one other man, and he happened to be gay, it wouldn't be a big deal, but I don't see why he couldn't just use the guest shower or at worst we could take turns in the shower.
I think the OP is talking about a communal shower, like at the gym or High School locker room. In a 9-square foot shower, I'd be uncomfortable with ANYONE in there...

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Old 11-16-2008, 08:16 PM
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Old 11-16-2008, 08:18 PM
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Not to any different degree than I mind the idea of straight men being in the shower with me.
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Old 11-16-2008, 08:20 PM
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Considering the number of times I've showered in a group, and the percentage of the population that is gay, I'd be shocked if I haven't already showered with gay men. Actually, that's not right. I know that I have.

Nudity is not necessarily sexual -- and showering is simply a daily chore for cleanliness, not a sensual experience per se. So no, I don't mind.
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Old 11-16-2008, 08:23 PM
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Don't all of you know that communal showers are a conspiracy by 'teh gays' to look at straight men 'cause we're all impossibly irresistible, even those of us who do not attract a woman with our pear-shaped physiques?

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Old 11-16-2008, 08:34 PM
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Not to any different degree than I mind the idea of straight men being in the shower with me.
So you wouldn't mind showering with Bud Abbott?
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Old 11-16-2008, 08:35 PM
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I used to go to a gym that was about 90% gay men.
So was it fun to stay at the YMCA?
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Old 11-16-2008, 08:43 PM
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Ugh. Being in a communal shower would be so unpleasant that I'd be far too concerned with getting out as soon as possible to care if there was a homosexual orgy going on, much less if a few men there were gay.
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No, doesn't bother me at all.
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no. not at all. And I used to work out at a largely gay gym, so this isn't just an idle comment.
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Old 11-16-2008, 08:58 PM
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