View Full Version : How important are a guy's teeth to women?

Soapbox Monkey
05-31-2004, 10:29 PM
Whenever I see polls about what girls look for in a guy, I always see a large portion of women answering that teeth are important. This alarms me because...well, I don't exactly have the best teeth.

When I was in first grade, I had serious ear infection problems and the gauntlet of antibiotics I was placed on gave me some pretty extensive staining. I did do bleaching treatments at the dentist a few years back, with minimal results.

My bottom teeth are also fairly out of wack, but I feel that I am passed the point of getting braces, and insurance most likely would not cover it. That, and it would probably require the pulling of at least one tooth, and I don't think that kind of pain, time and money would be worth it if some girl would be too shallow to see past the small problem.

So just how important are teeth to you ladies? :o

05-31-2004, 10:34 PM
I'm sorry to hear of your problems that caused your teeth to be so stained and crooked.

As to your question, how gentlemen's teeth look is pretty important to me. I'm married and shallow, though, so you don't have to worry about impressing me.

B. Serum
05-31-2004, 11:00 PM
I'm not a woman, but conventional wisdom tells me that perfect teeth — while desirable — are going to be less a deal-breaker than the major characteristics such as
• charisma/sense of humor/personality
• earning power/providing ability
• physical appearance, and
• personal values.

But if it's an issue for you, I wouldn't give up on fixing the problems you say you have.

Regarding the bleaching treatment, there are a bunch of whitening products on the market that are way cheaper than having a dentist do it. I would try a few treatments of them before saying "it can't be done."

Regarding braces, you are not past the point. My sister had braces when she was in her thirties. Moreover, if you need a tooth to be pulled to get your teeth straight, it's possible that same tooth may cause you problems in the future by screwing up your bite. Get a dentist's opinion. I'm just saying there may be reason to have this addressed beyond just cosmetic appeal.

Quick question: aren't you still in school? Wouldn't you still be covered under your parents health plan? Check that first. If not, I would definitely make dental benefits a priority when choosing a job once you get out of school.

Queen Tonya
05-31-2004, 11:30 PM
It's not a huge priority with me. I do notice if a guy has very nice teeth, but more in a "good job Mom and Dad!" sort of way, appreciating the fact that someone cared enough to pay the ortho bill and instill good hygeine.
I've never once thought "now there's a dreamy guy, too bad about the teeth though, cross him off the potential list" if that's what your thinking.

06-01-2004, 12:01 AM
Stained is fine. Rotting away is not. IMO, of course.

Jeep's Phoenix
06-01-2004, 12:10 AM
I do notice guys' teeth, but they aren't a deal breaker.

I have extensive staining due to dental fluorosis (took way too many of those little fluoride tablets as a child). I've had porcelain and resin veneers put on my front teeth, but that wasn't done until I was in the tenth grade--I spent a good chunk of my junior high and high school years walking around with badly stained and splotched teeth.

Having lived through that, I don't judge people based on their teeth.

Mirror Image egamI rorriM
06-01-2004, 12:16 AM
My (now ex) boyfriend did not have such lovely teeth. One was chipped from when he fell out of the back of a pickup truck, and they weren't straight at all. However, they were clean, which was the most important thing.

I kind of liked the chipped tooth. It gave him character.

Cowgirl Jules
06-01-2004, 12:27 AM
Jeep's Phoenix took a whole sentence right out of my mouth (and how'd you do that anyway?)

Also not a deal breaker here. I dated a guy that I really liked for quite a while before I noticed that one of his front teeth was dead, and that was only because one of his friends made fun of it. Seriously, I hadn't noticed.

Cowboy doesn't have the straightest teeth in the world, but it gives his smile character, and I like it.

Stained or crooked is fine; dirty is not.

Abbie Carmichael
06-01-2004, 01:23 AM
Teeth are important because it's nice to not have to pay for braces for your offspring. Mr. C's teeth are very straight, but he does have quite an underbite. After a day of knowing him, though, I didn't notice it anymore.

Stained is understandable, especially in your situation, OP. A couple of crooked teeth are okay. I've seen mouths (male and female), though, that looked as if someone took a handful of teeth and just threw them in there haphazardly. Ick! It's never too late to do something about it; I've seen 50 year olds with braces.

Rotten nasty breath, though, is OUT. Fresh minty breath can make up for a lot of other problems, and flossing is a big plus. And someone may not be able to help having a tooth rot, but a rotten tooth needs to either be pulled or covered up somehow.

Do the best you can with what you have and don't worry about it. If you do have work done, don't think of it as something you're doing to attract women. Having really crooked teeth (if that's your situation, anyway) is something that you should correct just because you deserve to go through life with a nice smile. Being more attractive to women is just a fringe benefit.


06-01-2004, 01:27 AM
It's not the quality of teeth, it's the quantity.

At least I hope so, because I have 33 adult teeth, and was told by my dentist that that is a very uncommonly high number.

06-01-2004, 01:39 AM
My bottom teeth are also fairly out of wack, but I feel that I am passed the point of getting braces, and insurance most likely would not cover it. That, and it would probably require the pulling of at least one tooth, and I don't think that kind of pain, time and money would be worth it if some girl would be too shallow to see past the small problem.

Having your teeth out of whack can cause other problems eventually, but they don't always.

Having a tooth pulled isn't all that painful. I have a phobia of dentists so when I go I have to have nitrous oxide. That relaxes me quite abit. Then I don't feel the shots they give me to deaded the gums so much. They can take a tooth out and I won't even know they've done it. Then the dentist usually prescribes something wonderful for pain for the first day or two. It works.

I had braces when I was in my late fifties. Recently I had a veneer placed over a tooth that was a little too dark.

Get your teeth cleaned professionally every six months and brush after every meal -- or at least check for food particles. A battery operated toothbrush is not very expensive and does wonders in helping to keep teeth free of food particles.

The importance of good teeth varies from woman to woman. No woman likes teeth that look dirty.

My first husband was missing teeth on one side. My first impression was not good, but eventually I didn't even think about his teeth. He was a lovely human being.

06-01-2004, 01:39 AM
FWIW, I'm not a very vain person at all, and I socialize well (at least I think so). While I'd never heard any comment from any woman I'd dated, about a year ago two women who are close to me (little sister and former business partner) made, within the space of two weeks, unsolicited (i.e.; out of the blue) comments to the effect that remedial efforts directed towards my long since dead (and black) front tooth might be worth the effort, from their female point of view.

So I got a crown. Now it looks just as (not more so) snaggily as the rest of my teeth. There are plenty of before and after pictures on various dopefest websites. It hasn't appreciably changed my dating luck, but I am more willing to smile for the cameras.

06-01-2004, 02:08 AM
Crooked doesn't matter, as long as it's not opossum-crooked. But even then, I suspect that after a while most people would just not notice. Same thing with stained.

However, as others have mentioned, rotten or dirty is OUT. WAY OUT. Deal-breaker-out.

Here in Hooterville, I see more than a few people with half-decomposed teeth in their mouth. Like, half the tooth is there (perhaps the left half) and it looks like it's slowly being eaten away, getting thinner and thinner and more brittle—like any day now, they'll bite into an apple and it'll be *snap*! And there goes that tooth. Just like their whole mouth is a *snap*! waiting to happen. :eek:

Yikes. I simply do not understand that. So anyway, as long as your teeth are clean and relatively healthy (not ready to snap off with the next crisp apple), then as far as I'm concerned, you're fine.

06-01-2004, 02:17 AM
yosemitebabe, I have that problem with a few of my mollars-and I can't afford to visit the dentist (no insurance, either), so that's probably why some of these people have those problems.

My teeth are slightly crooked and maybe a bit stained (I dont' think), but nothing gross. I just wish I could afford the root canals I need.

06-01-2004, 07:37 AM
Has anyone ever commented on your teeth? If not, then they probably aren't as bad as you may think. I do like nice teeth but they don't have to be perfect. I'm not sure that antibiotic stained teeth can be fixed by whitening products so I would check that before wasting your money.

My ex had braces when I first met him in his late 20's and it didn't seem odd to me at all, so don't worry about having braces as an adult.

06-01-2004, 08:40 AM
The dealbreakers for me are teeth with that white gunky stuff it (usually the two front teeth, which also happen to be the most noticeable), or heavily nicotine-stained teeth. It might be shallow, but it's a visceral reaction with me - I can't imagine kissing someone with dirty or rotten teeth.

Crooked and slightly stained teeth don't bother me that much. My bottom teeth are slightly crooked, but I have a slight overbite so nobody has ever noticed. I think you'll find that very few people have perfect teeth - I remember seeing a contestant on WWTBAM awhile ago who had such stunningly white and even teeth that even the host commented on them! (Turns out, the guy's sister was a dentist)

06-01-2004, 08:50 AM
I see more than a few people with half-decomposed teeth in their mouth. Like, half the tooth is there (perhaps the left half) and it looks like it's slowly being eaten away, getting thinner and thinner and more brittle—like any day now, they'll bite into an apple and it'll be *snap*! I used to have teeth like that. This was the consequence of a combination of factors: lack of affordable dental care, chronic depression, and a family genetic tendency to weak enamel. I brushed religiously through high school, and still lost one tooth to some weird anomaly by the time I was 20, and had to have a root canal when I was still in grade school (and that tooth eventually disintegrated anyway). I stopped brushing because it was too painful.

I finally had to have the ones that were left pulled and scraped together enough money for a cheap pair of dentures (about $800). That was four months of discretionary income and a major strain on my budget. I had a much better pair made last year for $1600, but I make more in a month now than I did in a year back then. I'd get implants if they didn't cost as much as a decent-sized house.

Just keep in mind that some the people with bad teeth aren't that way because they simply don't care about dental hygeine.

06-01-2004, 09:26 AM
Well, Mr. Kal had teeth when we started out, but they were in terrible shape. He's since had most of them pulled and doesn't wear dentures (couldn't get used to them).

He doesn't smile much because it looks terrible. It is embarrassing for both of us, and consequently, we don't do much socializing together. His diet is limited to what he can handle with the few teeth he has.

I, on the other hand, have never had a cavity (although I could stand a year in braces).

Bad teeth suck. But I married the whole guy -- not just his teeth. It's still a huge drag.

Lissla Lissar
06-01-2004, 09:44 AM
Mr. Lissar fell face-first while climing one of those spiral metal slides when he was about ten. Took out the whole middle section of his front upper teeth. Filler stuff was put in, but by the time I met him it was badly chipped. I thought it was kind of endearing. It's been fixed since then.

I don't notice teeth unless they're about to fall out or something.

06-01-2004, 10:20 AM
A guys teeth don't have to be perfect, but if they were really bad then it may put me off.

06-01-2004, 03:31 PM
keep in mind that some the people with bad teeth aren't that way because they simply don't care about dental hygeine.Understood, and thanks for the clarification.

I do think that many of these peoples' problems are due to lack of care, though. I never noticed that many people (especially young people) with teeth looking like they're ready to snap—until I moved to Hooterville. That leads me to believe that much of this is a regional/cultural problem.

I asked my dentist here about it and he concedes that yes, there is a bigger problem here, and part of that is due to the lax dental care habits.

06-01-2004, 09:27 PM
I dislike my teeth alot, I am getting 3 pulled (yes, an odd number) in a month or so, and am getting braces. My teeth are worse in my mind, because I am a critical teenager. I've asked all my friends, and family what they think of my teeth. 'Whats wrong with your teeth?', 'I never notice.', 'Your getting braces?!' 'It's not a big deal.'
It bothers me because my biggest concern is my 2 front teeth that are a bit too big, and when I talk and open my mouth they hang there for everyone to see, my upper lip does not fold down to meet my bottom lip relaxed, so I have to force it down. It's a step away from being a buck tooth mouth. Then, theres my bottom row, which is offcenter, the middle is pushed to the right and then one tooth is pushed upwards so it sticks up above the rest, so if you look you can see something wrong. My biggest regret is not getting braces in my younger years and being so naive to not realising I had a problem. And I think that even after they are off, my teeth will not be perfect! At least, I think my massive over bite will be fixed. (Which people NEVER noticed)

Listen Soapbox if it makes you feel better, lots of celebrities have bad teeth too. For example, Tom cruise. They may be together and shiny, but if you look at his face straight on, you can see the upper row is FAR off center.

I don't know what your teeth look like, but there is a fair chance that people haven't noticed. There are very few people who look at teeth when they judge someone, unless your self concious of your own. (ahem)
Seriously, if you look, your not alone. You are never too old for braces.

Kneepants Erasmus, the Humanist
06-01-2004, 11:06 PM
Ahhh. There is nothing I like more that a set of slightly imperfect teeth on a man. A gap here.....or a chip there.....or crooked.....I absolutely love it. Dunno why. Maybe because in a way it is somewhat boyish, and I am attracted by that.

A big reason I watch The Office is the fact that I am madly in love with Ricky Gervais' teeth.

Maybe that is strange.....seeing it on "paper" and all.

Perfect teeth are a turnoff for me. Of course my teeth are straight from wearing braces for years in Jr High......I almost wish I hadn't done that.

06-02-2004, 06:34 AM
I think it's not so much a matter of perfect teeth as clean teeth. It's a hygiene issue as much as anything else. Teeth that are crooked and stained but clean are one thing, but even if they're straight teeth green or scummy are just plain disgusting.

06-02-2004, 07:01 PM
Yeah, it's kind of shallow and all, but crooked teeth are somewhat of a turn-off to me. I don't really know why, but it probably has to do with the fact that I have nice teeth (2 years of braces to thank for that) and people compliment me on my teeth often. I don't think that I would choose not to date someone simply because of their teeth...but I've never had a potential love interest that didn't have good teeth so its hard to say. The boyfriend had braces when he was younger and now he has nice teeth.

Teeth are also one of the very first things I notice about people. I have a habit of looking at people's teeth and mouths, even people I've known for years. I like to see how teeth and mouths move when people talk. Its weird but strangely fascinating to me.

06-02-2004, 10:06 PM
Perfect teeth are a turnoff for me. Of course my teeth are straight from wearing braces for years in Jr High......I almost wish I hadn't done that.

I absolutely agree. Real teeth aren't blindingly white nor are they perfect little rectangles. As for the OP, I don't like extremes - neither the bizarre unnatural chiclets, or Gollum-like snaggled fangs. I have to admit I prefer nice, mostly straight teeth, but I can't imagine rejecting a man outright just for his teeth.

06-04-2004, 02:58 PM
My current s.o. and my last ex are both smokers. Every now and again I'll notice the colour, but it doesn't bother me. Teeth don't have to be perfect, but I probably would be icked out if they were really unclean looking and pointing in odd directions.

My ex hadn't gone to the dentist in years. I made an appointment for the both of us (he had been having wisdom tooth issues). He had years of calcium build up chipped off. Drove him nuts for weeks because he'd keep wearing spots on his tongue. Before the appointment he couldn't get floss between his teeth. No cavities though. Healthiest hippie I've ever met.

I once was best friends with a girl who never stopped sucking her fingers (index and middle finger, HUGE calluses, looked like a fourth knuckle). Her front teeth were nearly horizontal. My current loathing for her is entirely due to her being a lying, backstabbing ho and nothing to do with her teeth.

Mine are good. No cavities, white enough, near-perfect bite. Dentists love me. Only work I had done was sealants as a child (they've since worn off).

06-04-2004, 03:21 PM
I used to work with a single, straight, very nice guy... whose teeth were rotting out of his head. It clearly ran in the family, since I also worked with his mom and had met his sister a number of times and this guy had the best teeth in the family. I couldn't understand it, because we worked at the same place, had the same benefit plan and both had dental insurance available to us at reasonable, affordable rates. He could have afforded a little dental work.

To me, stained or crooked are no big whoop. It's the rotten, bad breath, full of cavities and decay that can be a dealbreaker.

I also have tetracycline stains from that antibiotic I was given as a kid. There's not a damn thing you can do about them, short of veneers. I've done the dentist bleaching thing, and the at-home kits and have tried about everything. While the cigarette stains have been removed... the gray tetracycline stains remain. It's highly costly to really get rid of them. Having learned to live with it, I would probably not even notice if someone else had the same thing. Same goes with the crooked thing. But if your gums are puss-filled and oozing, your teef are breaking off with each bite of apple and no one can talk to you without being at least four feet away... you need to get some dental work done. (I also think that goes back to men taking responsibility for their own health care -- see The Pit for that thread.)

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