View Poll Results: What counts as a blow job?
Any oral stimulation of the penis 131 57.46%
Oral stimulation leading to orgasm 88 38.60%
Something else, which I'll explain in comments 6 2.63%
Hmmph, wish I was experienced enough in the matter to comment *sulk* 3 1.32%
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Old 11-15-2012, 03:57 AM
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What's your definition of a blow-job? (Clinical, but NSFW)

Without going into the background, I recently had a conversation which revealed I had a very different definition of a blow-job from my "friend".

I'd argue that any oral stimulation of the penis counted, as long as it lasted more than a few seconds, but his definition required seeing it through to orgasm.

So, which do you agree with? Any oral contact is oral sex, or is completion required?

Do try and keep it clinical please
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Old 11-15-2012, 04:22 AM
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Well, any oral contact counts as oral sex, but for it to be considered an actual blow job I think it would have to go on for some duration; until orgasm or at least finishing manually. How's that for clinical?
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Old 11-15-2012, 06:58 AM
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If you're not willing to work at it, then don't call it a job.
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Old 11-15-2012, 07:01 AM
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A pity that answers don't specify if the answer is given by the blower or the blowee.
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Old 11-15-2012, 08:37 AM
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If it doesn't end in orgasm then it's just teasing.

Blowee.
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Old 11-15-2012, 08:45 AM
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I am 64 years old and have been with a lot of women. Most of the time I would say a good blow job is foreplay leading to sex. I may very well go back for some more oral when it is time to finish but I view blow jobs primarily as foreplay. Exception would be if I was paying for one, then it would have to be to completion.
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Old 11-15-2012, 08:49 AM
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I don't think it needs to end with the person attached to the penis coming. If the person attached to the mouth blows their partner, then finishes them with their hands, or breasts (if applicable), or lets them fuck whichever orifice the two feel like getting involved, or if the owner of the penis ends up not coming at all for whatever reason...that's still a blowjob.

However, a bj isn't any oral stimulation of the penis. If the owner of the involved penis was the one actively doing things, then they have facefucked their partner, not received a blowjob. For it to be a bj, the person with the mouth needs to be the active partner.
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Old 11-15-2012, 08:56 AM
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Blow Job to me would include the 'blowing' in other words the male ejaculating but also including failed attempts at it and needing to switch to a different form or stopping. the intent of a blow job is to have the man ejaculate via oral.

Other then that it would be oral foreplay but no I would not consider that a blowjob. YMMV

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Old 11-15-2012, 09:07 AM
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However, a bj isn't any oral stimulation of the penis. If the owner of the involved penis was the one actively doing things, then they have facefucked their partner, not received a blowjob. For it to be a bj, the person with the mouth needs to be the active partner.
I'd agree with this. However, I still feel that a blowjob involves her performing oral on me, and me climaxing in her mouth as a result of the oral*. Whether or not she used her hands during the act is irrelevant. If it was a prelude to intercourse or some other type of release, it is "she blew me for a while, and then..."





*Like this morning, for instance.
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Old 11-15-2012, 09:10 AM
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Wiki (which I won't link to as there are a couple of explicit illustrations), has this definition of fellatio:

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Fellatio (also known as fellation,[1] and colloquially blow job, BJ, giving head or sucking off[2]) is an act of oral stimulation of the penis by a sexual partner or by oneself (autofellatio). It involves the stimulation of the penis by the use of the mouth, lips, tongue or throat.
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Old 11-15-2012, 09:14 AM
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Oral stimulation of the penis that actually leads to ejaculation.
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Old 11-15-2012, 09:17 AM
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*Like this morning, for instance.
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Ten seconds of licking does not make a blow job. But it doesn't have to end in orgasm.
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Old 11-15-2012, 10:07 AM
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Oral stimulation.

Oral stimulation that doesn't lead to orgasm is still a bj, it's just a bad bj. (Unless as some have said, it's a precursor to other romantic activities.)
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Old 11-15-2012, 10:58 AM
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Damn right!
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Old 11-15-2012, 11:03 AM
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This just blows me away.

The word "job" implies a work that is complete from start to finish. There needs to be a pay-off for it to be an honest-to-god blow-job.
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Old 11-15-2012, 02:40 PM
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This just blows me away.

The word "job" implies a work that is complete from start to finish. There needs to be a pay-off for it to be an honest-to-god blow-job.
I am in complete agreement. A blow-job has a beginning, a middle and an end. It is a discrete, finite thing. It is a one-sided thing; for his pleasure.* Oral stimulation, fellatio, whatever, can be parts of foreplay and general sexy funtime, but a blow-job is a blow-job. Same goes for a hand-job.

*I do, of course, enjoy giving a good old blow-job, but the pleasure mostly comes from knowing the pleasure I'm giving.

Can I also just add that, following the recent Scottish Dopefest, this is a spectacular first post-in-reply-to-an-OP-I-have-met.
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Old 11-15-2012, 02:52 PM
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You guys must be a lot easier to get off than my boyfriends have been (yes, the other possibility is also likely, except the one said he's only gotten off once or twice from a blowjob alone)

Doesn't have to end in orgasm, but you have to put some significant effort into it.
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Old 11-15-2012, 03:47 PM
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If you're not willing to work at it, then don't call it a job.
The only job some enjoy even though it sucks.
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Old 11-15-2012, 05:22 PM
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Fellatio is foreplay, a BJ is a different beast
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Old 11-15-2012, 05:41 PM
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I'd say it can fall somewhere between the two. I'm a blower and blowee and am adding those terms to my vocabulary.
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Old 11-15-2012, 05:44 PM
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I voted for "oral stimulation leading to orgasm."

Oral stimulation without that goal is fine and dandy, but I don't think I'd ever say that I gave a guy a blowjob unless he came. If that was the goal but he didn't come despite my best efforts (for whatever reason), I'd say that I tried to give him a blowjob or that I started to give him a blowjob.
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Old 11-15-2012, 05:47 PM
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blow job would be if you have an orgasm due to oral sex. if she uses her hand to give you an orgasm it will be a hand job.
I have my own vocbulary for this topic. if she gives you oral sex just to get up and ready for sex, i call it a bj, if she starts with oral and finishes u with oral i call that a blow job.
what do you all think?
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Old 11-15-2012, 06:02 PM
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I voted for "oral stimulation leading to orgasm."

Oral stimulation without that goal is fine and dandy, but I don't think I'd ever say that I gave a guy a blowjob unless he came. If that was the goal but he didn't come despite my best efforts (for whatever reason), I'd say that I tried to give him a blowjob or that I started to give him a blowjob.
This.
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Old 11-15-2012, 09:29 PM
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While all blowjobs are oral sex; not all oral sex are blow jobs. Any stimulation of the penis by the mouth is oral sex but it ain't a bj unless it features that "big finish".
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Old 11-15-2012, 10:20 PM
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All I know is the only thing wrong with 69 is the view.
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Old 11-15-2012, 10:27 PM
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All I know is the only thing wrong with 69 is the view.
...And the distraction.
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Old 11-15-2012, 10:39 PM
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Ten seconds of licking does not make a blow job. But it doesn't have to end in orgasm.
But what if those ten seconds of licking end in an orgasm?
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Old 11-15-2012, 10:41 PM
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But what if those ten seconds of licking end in an orgasm?
That's part-time employment.
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Old 11-15-2012, 11:39 PM
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It's not a job unless you finish it. And do it right. Heh heh.
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Old 11-16-2012, 12:04 AM
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You guys must be a lot easier to get off than my boyfriends have been (yes, the other possibility is also likely, except the one said he's only gotten off once or twice from a blowjob alone)
Next time try taking your teeth out first.
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Old 11-16-2012, 09:16 AM
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In the Previous thread/poll, "any oral stimulation" was the clear winner, but a substantial number of people did vote for/advocate "orgasm required." It looks like this one's going the same route.
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Can I also just add that, following the recent Scottish Dopefest, this is a spectacular first post-in-reply-to-an-OP-I-have-met.
Did I not say in person I was going to start this thread? If not, I meant to! And you may also have met the "friend" of mine who started the discussion
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Old 11-16-2012, 03:18 PM
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It's a blowjob if it ends in orgasm. If not, it's foreplay.
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Old 11-16-2012, 04:23 PM
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It's not a job unless you finish it. And do it right. Heh heh.
I know this one girl who got fired from a blow job once.
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Old 11-16-2012, 04:28 PM
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Wow, she must be really tiny.
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Old 11-16-2012, 06:00 PM
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Finishing what you start makes a blowjob.

Demurring makes for agita...

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Old 11-16-2012, 06:03 PM
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A BJ has to be finished unless the judge's gag order say otherwise.

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Old 11-16-2012, 06:15 PM
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Wow, she must be really tiny.
*applause*

For it to be a blow job, the penis has to go in the mouth, but the man doesn't have to come. If he did, by that logic, a person is a virgin until they've climaxed from sex, which is simply not the case.
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I thought it was something the hairdresser did - to hair.
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Old 11-16-2012, 06:26 PM
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Oral stimulation in which the penis is fully inside the mouth either until orgasm or until proceeding to another sex act.
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Old 11-16-2012, 07:17 PM
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It's not a blow job until somebody blows their wad....otherwise, it's oral stimulation work.
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Old 11-16-2012, 08:24 PM
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It's not a job unless you finish it. And do it right. Heh heh.
And if it's not done right the first time, then try, try again.


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I thought it was something the hairdresser did - to hair.
No, that would be bukkake.
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Old 11-16-2012, 08:46 PM
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No, that would be bukkake.
Well, in that case it's not just the hairdresser; it's the hairdresser, the clerk, the janitor, the salon-owner and the girl's cab-driver.
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Old 11-16-2012, 09:01 PM
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You have to put some time and effort into it, a few minutes maybe, but orgasm isn't absolutely required to fulfil the definition.
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Old 11-18-2012, 04:15 PM
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I actually gave this some thought. Then I remembered one of my ex-BFs, who would suck on my cock for a few seconds, because he knew that's what I liked. I actually hated it, because what I really needed was an orgasm. Thinking back at him, I wouldn't say that what he gave me were BJs.

Then I thought about my partner, who is so skilled that he can pleasure me for hours without an orgasm, yet I never have the feeling that I'm missing anything.

So my answer is: it depends.
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Old 11-18-2012, 07:16 PM
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Spit or swallow? I think that if a woman swallows my cum it constitutes a full "blown"
blow job. After all, my stuff belongs in a woman's body, one way or the other.
And yes, I've swallowed a lot of stuff (whatever it is) that came out of a woman's kootchie. (Not that I'm complaining!)
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Old 11-19-2012, 09:18 AM
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A pity that answers don't specify if the answer is given by the blower or the blowee.
Yeah, I thought about it. But you'd have to have blower (female) and blowee (straight male). Then, just in case there's a difference, you'd need blower (gay male) and blowee (gay male)too. But then you might offend blower (bi male) and blowee (bi male), as they hate being left out. And you don't want to forget about blower (bi female), and blow-me (lesbian female) either.

Feel free to start your own poll, but I just know I've left someone out
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Old 11-19-2012, 12:28 PM
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Well, any oral contact counts as oral sex, but for it to be considered an actual blow job I think it would have to go on for some duration; until orgasm or at least finishing manually. How's that for clinical?
This is what I'd think, although I'd allow for "manually" to include other joint sexual activities, including intercourse.
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