View Poll Results: Creepy or not?
Creepy 101 48.56%
Not creepy 60 28.85%
Meh, I'm on the fence. 41 19.71%
Other 6 2.88%
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Old 03-19-2015, 11:26 AM
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Is it creepy for brother and sister to cuddle on the couch?

So this is a thing I witnessed as a teen: It's Christmas time. Our family is getting together with another family for dinner and to exchange gifts.

The other family has a daughter and son. At some point, daughter and son sit on the couch together.

This, is probably the best example I could find. Only except, you have to imagine that dude's right leg is on the other side of the girl. So basically, little sis is sitting between brothers legs. It should be noted, brother and sis are young adults.

My sister and I were extremely creeped out by this. But we've never been a touchy feely family anyway.

So, creepy or not?
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Old 03-19-2015, 11:47 AM
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Creepy past the age of 5. Young Adults?
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Old 03-19-2015, 11:48 AM
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I'm an only child, but I always sat snuggled up with my male cousins and never thought much of it. It's kind of nice. My family wasn't touchy-feely either and it was so nice to find other people who loved hugs and liked to sit close together on the couch and snuggle up.
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Old 03-19-2015, 11:48 AM
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Not necessarily creepy.

I think it's weird that we're at a point in our culture where physical closeness is seen as inherently sexual. The Sia Elastic Heart video and the ensuing "outrage" and apologies that came out of it is a good example of this.
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Old 03-19-2015, 11:56 AM
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My husband and his brothers and sisters are like this when they're all feeling particularly happy with one another (we're all under 30, btw) and it never feels weird or creepy because of the happy mood that triggered it. Four people who grew up together all the time, reasonably close in age, and had to share rooms and couches and cars get used to mundane physical contact quite fast.

If you weren't raised that way it might be awkward though.
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Old 03-19-2015, 11:57 AM
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I voted "not creepy," but I don't have any sisters. Maybe if I did it would creep me out.
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Old 03-19-2015, 11:58 AM
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Well, it's their family. Maybe that's just what they do. But I won't lie - if I saw some young people sitting on the couch in the way that you described and I knew that they were that closely related, would I think it was a little weird? Yeah, probably.
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Old 03-19-2015, 12:00 PM
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I think it's the "between the legs" bit that put it over the top for me. That seems like a lounging position that's strictly reserved for couples, to me. And don't teenage boys get inopportune...uh...alertness all the time?
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Old 03-19-2015, 12:12 PM
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Nah. My siblings and I are in our 20's and 30's and we cuddle up together all the time. Often it's the younger two in a recliner together.
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Old 03-19-2015, 12:27 PM
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If simple cuddling (as was shown in that picture) is creepy, we really have become too prudish as a culture.

It's not as if they are making out or dry humping each other on the sofa, right? Not every form of physical contact is sexual in nature.
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Old 03-19-2015, 12:32 PM
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How come "hot" wasn't one of the voting options?
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Old 03-19-2015, 12:59 PM
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I'm voting not creepy.

It's certainly not within the cultural norms. It's nothing that would ever have happened in my family. But like someone else said, it's not like they're dry humping each other and it doesn't sound like either sibling is being forced to do something they're not comfortable with.

It wasn't so long ago that entire families of mixed ages and genders slept in the same bed together (or the same room at the very least). Somewhere in the last 200 years we've got it into our heads that kids will be irrevocably damaged if they happen to see or touch anyone of the opposite gender.

If they're both comfortable and happy, the rest of us should be happy for them.
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Old 03-19-2015, 01:04 PM
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I voted "Other" because it would be creepy as hell for my brother and I. We are very close emotionally and intellectually, but not are we not emotional people, we're not touchy-feely at all.

But it's not creepy if other sibs do it. Everybody has their thing.
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Old 03-19-2015, 01:22 PM
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I'm creeped out that you made it a poll question...
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Old 03-19-2015, 01:32 PM
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How come "hot" wasn't one of the voting options?
Isn't "creepy" often just a "hot" that protests too much?
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Old 03-19-2015, 02:55 PM
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The photo wasn't creepy for brother-sister, but you described something else where her behind is planted on his crotch, if I understand correctly.
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Old 03-19-2015, 03:31 PM
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The photo wasn't creepy for brother-sister, but you described something else where her behind is planted on his crotch, if I understand correctly.
You understand correctly.
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Old 03-19-2015, 03:42 PM
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The photo wasn't creepy for brother-sister, but you described something else where her behind is planted on his crotch, if I understand correctly.
It seems like people missed this, or else my Creepometer™ is way off.
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Old 03-19-2015, 03:52 PM
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I'm creeped out that you made it a poll question...
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Old 03-19-2015, 03:54 PM
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My brother and I aren't that physically close, but my male cousins I lived with and I sort of are, and they are to their sisters. That said, I'd really have to be there. How long did it go on? was the room cold? was there anywhere else to sit? One of my cousins is 11 years older than one of his sisters, and I know someone who thought it was odd when she sat on his lap when she was a little girl (like, 5 or 6) and he was a teenager, but I thought it was cute.

What was the age difference?

I've currently going with "not creepy," but I actually voted "other," because I think there's not enough information, and it may really just depend on what is normal for that family.
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Old 03-19-2015, 03:59 PM
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I'm on the fence. Could go either way depending on the circumstances.
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Old 03-19-2015, 04:10 PM
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My children are cuddlers. They love being cuddly with me and with each other. But there are limits. Sitting between thighs isn't a sibling cuddle position, so I'd have to go with, "eh, that's creepy." But like the photo, not so much. In our house, though, the genders would be switched. My son would be leaning against my daughter since he is quite a bit younger than she.
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Old 03-19-2015, 04:21 PM
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Not creepy as long it stays short of this.
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Old 03-19-2015, 04:34 PM
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Not creepy as long it stays short of this.
That was hilarious! It also made realize that's it's been so long since I watched SNL, I wasn't getting why the audience was cheering when certain cast members walked on stage.

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Old 03-19-2015, 04:36 PM
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It's creepy. That doesn't mean anything creepy is going on, but it looks like there is, so it's still creepy.
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Old 03-19-2015, 04:47 PM
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My barometer: If I walk into a room and see two people acting/sitting in a manner that would make me think they're either dating, married, single and flirting or hoping to be "more than friends," then I would hope they're not brother and sister.

If I saw two adults (young or otherwise) sitting the way the OP described, I would think the two were some degree of an item. So, to me, it's inappropriate (unless, they're an item and everyone's ok with that).

Would I be squicked out if my wife was sitting that way with one of my male friends? Yep. And the same thing goes for one of her brothers. But, of course I realize, YMMV.
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Old 03-19-2015, 05:01 PM
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There's no poll option for "hot."
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Old 03-19-2015, 05:23 PM
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Once crotch meets rear end it becomes a bit creepy, but the OPs picture is not.
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Old 03-19-2015, 06:57 PM
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5 sisters, all on the porch sleeping in a row of single cots. Also me & my brother. Once in a while Grandma would be out there too.

Doing water things, surf boards, tubes, building pyramids with skiers, cliff climbing, all kinds of touching going on with a lot of different people.

As to a really sexual position that would make Grandma get upset, would need to know more about the people and circumstances.

Just strangers I had never met before, just sitting, does not bother me. Now, if between 40 & 60 year old's when I find out they are siblings, I may roll my eyes.
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Old 03-19-2015, 07:21 PM
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Depends on the people. The sight alone wouldn't creep me out unless I question the actual relationship.
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Old 03-19-2015, 07:25 PM
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As long as any actual incesticating is mutually voluntary, I don't care what they do.
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Old 03-19-2015, 07:37 PM
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ehh.... The linked picture is pretty grey. Even with being closer.

But, snuggling for a long time is right out, and creepy IMHO.

I hug all my friends, and have a great picture of my Wife and her Brother hugging and laughing on the couch. Shows love for siblings, and nothing else.

It's different everywhere. I understand that male friends in Arabic countries will hold hands just walking down the street.
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Old 03-19-2015, 08:34 PM
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Old 03-19-2015, 10:38 PM
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I'm an only child, but I always sat snuggled up with my male cousins and never thought much of it. It's kind of nice. My family wasn't touchy-feely either and it was so nice to find other people who loved hugs and liked to sit close together on the couch and snuggle up.
I doubt you sat between their spread legs! Did you?!!
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Old 03-19-2015, 11:31 PM
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That's why I'm happy to only have had brothers not sisters!
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Old 03-20-2015, 07:58 AM
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I'm a prude because it would weird me out to see siblings act like the OP's pic.
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Old 03-20-2015, 09:06 AM
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Doesn't creep me out at all. I wouldn't do it with either of my sisters, we're just not that close, but I have (precisely the position described in the OP) with a female cousin, us being in our 30s. As long as no-one's hands are on boobs or butts, it's just cuddling.
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Old 03-20-2015, 09:39 AM
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I voted creepy but would like to know where the guy's hands were before really being creeped out.
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Old 03-20-2015, 10:55 AM
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I voted creepy but would like to know where the guy's hands were before really being creeped out.
I omitted this part from my OP because I didn't want to poison the well.

His hands were rubbing up and down the sides of her (upper) arms.
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Old 03-20-2015, 10:57 AM
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I omitted this part from my OP because I didn't want to poison the well.

His hands were rubbing up and down the sides of her (upper) arms.
OK, that's it. You need "Lannister" as a new poll option.
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That's why I'm happy to only have had brothers not sisters!

Not that there is anything wrong with that.

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Old 03-20-2015, 11:02 AM
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That's not poisoning the well, that's just giving an accurate description.
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Old 03-20-2015, 11:21 AM
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Sitting like the picture you showed, I would not find it creepy. I have a much younger cousin who will sit like this on me to this day (I am 43, she is 27). We have always been very close and she has had a pretty rough life, so I have always been a source of comfort and safety to her. Additionally, my daughter and her are just as close and will coddle the same way with my cousin.

For us, there is no sexual component to the affection. We just are able to draw comfort and love from each other.

The additional elements you added may push it more towards the creepy factor, but just being physically comfortable with family that you love would not be creepy in and of itself.
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Old 03-20-2015, 11:49 AM
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When my sister (44) and I (52) sit on the sofa together at family events it quickly devolves into a slap fight/wrestling match and it has been this way for more than almost 40 years. This is more or less playful, but annoying and weird to everyone else, so we are usually instructed not to sit together. For the record, she started it. Always.
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Old 03-20-2015, 12:06 PM
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I omitted this part from my OP because I didn't want to poison the well.

His hands were rubbing up and down the sides of her (upper) arms.
Most people don't find upper arms to be sensual so it remains only moderately creepy to me.
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Old 03-20-2015, 12:14 PM
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I find it creepy.

Were they drinking Folgers?
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Old 03-20-2015, 12:17 PM
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I find it creepy.

Were they drinking Folgers?
"We've replaced the fine coffee he usually drinks with Folger's crystals...and he probably won't notice, because we also replaced the fine chick who usually sits between his legs with his sister..."
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Old 03-20-2015, 12:36 PM
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Old 03-20-2015, 03:24 PM
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I omitted this part from my OP because I didn't want to poison the well.

His hands were rubbing up and down the sides of her (upper) arms.
I missed that the first time through. Yeah, creepy unless they drink Folgers.
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Old 03-20-2015, 05:34 PM
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Not necessarily creepy.

I think it's weird that we're at a point in our culture where physical closeness is seen as inherently sexual. The Sia Elastic Heart video and the ensuing "outrage" and apologies that came out of it is a good example of this.
Good point.

Not that long ago, people could have their hands all over each other without it meaning anything romantic.

Examples from old books:

In The Mill on the Floss, the main characters, a big brother and a little sister,

SPOILER:

drown in a storm surge. Shortly afterward, their bodies "were found in close embrace"


Tom Brown's Schooldays is full of high school boys who just love holding hands with each other and providing nurturing cuddles for emotional support. At one point, one of the boys receives hugs from the principal and then goes and tells it to another boy without any shame or embarrassment whatsoever.
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